fix(tests): break the irtt-client/irtt-server dev-dependency cycle

irtt-client and irtt-server mutually dev-depended on each other for
cross-crate integration tests. That cycle blocks `cargo publish` for
either crate whenever the other doesn't already exist on the registry
at the required version, which is exactly the situation for a crate's
first-ever release (irtt-server has never been published before).

Introduce a new `irtt-integration-tests` crate (publish = false, no
library target) to own tests whose actual subject is the interaction
between two or more irtt-* production crates:

  crate-local behavior          -> crate's own tests/
  cross-crate/system behavior   -> irtt-integration-tests

Move every test that imports both irtt_client and irtt_server there:
the client-side support harness (hmac, large_packets, protocol_options,
fill_negotiation) and the server-side real-socket tests that drive a
real AsyncClient against a real Server (async_client, negotiation_policy,
fill_wire_bytes, traffic_class, wildcard_source). server_set.rs stays in
irtt-server/tests since it only uses irtt_proto as test machinery to
drive irtt-server directly, which is a normal one-directional test
dependency, not a peer relationship.

irtt-server's dev-dependency on irtt-client is dropped entirely now
that nothing under crates/irtt-server/tests needs it, which fully
breaks the cycle from that side.

irtt-client keeps a one-directional dev-dependency on irtt-server: a
handful of white-box unit tests in src/async_client/tests.rs assert on
private AsyncClient internals (socket, remote, test_hooks) while also
needing a real in-tree server for blocking/async equivalence checks, so
they can't move to an external crate without losing that access. Their
InTreeServer helper is duplicated locally rather than shared, matching
the existing precedent of irtt-cli's own tests/support/in_tree_server.rs.

crates/irtt-client/src/async_client/in_tree_server_support.rs

@@ -0,0 +1,82 @@
+//! A real `irtt-server` running in-process, for tests that need to prove
+//! `AsyncClient` and the blocking `Client` are equivalent against a real peer.
+//!
+//! This duplicates `crates/irtt-integration-tests/tests/support/in_tree_server.rs`
+//! rather than depending on it: this module backs private (`super::*`) unit
+//! tests here, while the integration crate covers black-box client/server
+//! behavior, and neither can depend on the other's test-only code.
+
+use std::{
+    net::{IpAddr, Ipv4Addr, SocketAddr},
+    sync::mpsc,
+    thread::{self, JoinHandle},
+    time::Duration,
+};
+
+use irtt_server::{Server, ServerConfig};
+use tokio::sync::oneshot;
+
+const STARTUP_TIMEOUT: Duration = Duration::from_secs(2);
+
+pub struct InTreeServer {
+    pub addr: SocketAddr,
+    shutdown: Option<oneshot::Sender<()>>,
+    done: Option<JoinHandle<Result<(), irtt_server::ServerRuntimeError>>>,
+}
+
+impl InTreeServer {
+    pub fn start(config: ServerConfig) -> Self {
+        let (startup_tx, startup_rx) = mpsc::sync_channel(1);
+        let (shutdown_tx, shutdown_rx) = oneshot::channel();
+        let done = thread::spawn(move || {
+            let runtime = tokio::runtime::Builder::new_current_thread()
+                .enable_all()
+                .build()
+                .expect("failed to build in-tree test server runtime");
+            runtime.block_on(async move {
+                let bind_addr = SocketAddr::new(IpAddr::V4(Ipv4Addr::LOCALHOST), 0);
+                let mut server = Server::bind(bind_addr, config).await?;
+                startup_tx
+                    .send(server.local_addr()?)
+                    .expect("test stopped waiting for in-tree server startup");
+                server
+                    .run(async {
+                        let _ = shutdown_rx.await;
+                    })
+                    .await
+            })
+        });
+
+        let addr = match startup_rx.recv_timeout(STARTUP_TIMEOUT) {
+            Ok(addr) => addr,
+            Err(error) => {
+                let _ = shutdown_tx.send(());
+                let result = done.join().expect("in-tree test server thread panicked");
+                panic!("in-tree test server failed before startup ({error}): {result:?}");
+            }
+        };
+
+        Self {
+            addr,
+            shutdown: Some(shutdown_tx),
+            done: Some(done),
+        }
+    }
+
+    fn stop_inner(&mut self) {
+        if let Some(shutdown) = self.shutdown.take() {
+            let _ = shutdown.send(());
+        }
+        if let Some(done) = self.done.take() {
+            done.join()
+                .expect("in-tree test server thread panicked")
+                .expect("in-tree test server stopped with an error");
+        }
+    }
+}
+
+impl Drop for InTreeServer {
+    fn drop(&mut self) {
+        self.stop_inner();
+    }
+}

crates/irtt-client/src/async_client/tests.rs

@@ -14,7 +14,7 @@ use irtt_proto::{
 };
 use tokio::runtime::{Builder, Runtime};
 
-#[path = "../../tests/support/in_tree_server.rs"]
+#[path = "in_tree_server_support.rs"]
 mod in_tree_server;
 
 use super::*;